Renowned counselor, Kwaku Adumatta, has charged married couples to be mindful of the kind of people they discuss their marriage life with.

According to him, it is wrong for a married man or woman to simply go about discussing their marriage with others.

In an interview, Conselor Adumatta said;

“You’ve got to be very careful if you’re doing that. Your marriage life is your secret and it is sacred, so it should be kept as such”.
Counselor Adumatta

He emphasized that anything that is secret and sacred should also be protected hence marriage and whatever goes on in the marriage needs to be protected.

He said;

“It is not everyone you can let in easily, irrespective of who the person is. You need to be careful of what you tell them concerning your marriage else, you might end up sending a bad signal about your partner to whoever it is you’re discussing your partner with especially if what you’re saying about your partner is negative”.
Counselor Adumatta

The counselor mentioned that the people you talk to about your marriage are known as third parties and they are invited into the marriage by you, so should be taken care of.

He cautioned saying that if care is not taken, they come in to destroy the marriage.

“If care is not taken, they will destroy the marriage. To prevent them from doing this or to prevent this from happening, avoid involving them in your marriage”.
Counselor Adumatta

God is the only third-party accepted in marriages

The counselor advised married couples against involving third parties in their marriages.

According to him, marriage doesn’t need a third party because it is a covenant between the couple and God.

He said;

“Hence, the only third-party allowed into the marriage is God”.
Counselor Adumatta

Speaking in the interview, Counselor Adumatta said;

“That covenant is between those who have become one and God, so although you’re three, in actual sense you’re two. And if marriage is a covenant, then God should be the only third-party getting involved”.
Counsellor Adumatta

Moving on, he added that we also need to understand that once anyone is married, they must forsake all others except their partners.

He further explained that a vow basically means that no third party is allowed into your marriage and if that is not done, there will be a problem.

“This I have studied and realized is the only marriage vow that doesn’t change over the years. This vow basically means that you won’t allow any third party into your marriage. If you don’t forsake all others you’ll have a problem”.
Counselor Adumatta

However, he stated that people like the father, mother, and siblings are known as natural third parties meaning they naturally have a stake and role in the marriage but that aspect needs to be managed well.

He added saying;

“It all depends on how you play the role because if you’re not careful and draw the line, they will come in like they own your marriage”.
Counselor Adumatta