Popular South African polygamist, Musa Mseleku has stated that he feels he is underperforming even though he has 10 children from four wives.
Speaking in an interview with a South African media outlet, Musa who takes pride in being a father, stated that he is not overwhelmed by it and he is hoping to having more children.
“I have 10 children and I think I am underperforming. A man with four wives is not supposed to have that number of children. He must have at least 15-20 children.
“I have learned to appreciate that I brought life to the world. However, being a father is an even bigger responsibility to carry day-to-day. The responsibility of a father is to take care, protect and make sure you provide”.
Musa discloses how he takes care of his 10 children
Touching on how he is able to cater for his children, the polygamist stated that he pays attention to each child, accepts that children are different, and learn to relate to them differently without making others feel less loved than others.
“While you raise children, you must further identify where you are not talented. If you think you master everything, you might end up making mistakes in the process especially with children, they are observant. My involvement in their lives is bigger than that of a ‘normal’ family”.
Musa further revealed that leaving a legacy is very important to him. He added that he believes he is doing a great job as a father.
He also acknowledged the fact that being a polygamist is a difficult thing. According to him, “children are the ones who can cause damage or build a legacy”. He further continued by noting that “as a father you need to be in their lives and practice equality all the time when it comes to them. Comparison to the other within the family is a recipe for hatred and disaster”.
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Musa is a proud father
Musa also emphasized that he is very proud of how well he has brought up;his children and of how they are able to handle questions being asked about their family.
“When I am sitting with my children and listening to how they speak about things I believe in and cherish the most, when they do that, consciously or unconsciously, I then realize that I have done a great job.
“They will tell me about how they have answered other children who’ve asked questions about their ‘not so normal’ family. It is then I realize that I have planted the right seed”.
Musa also disclosed that he knows that there are some men who think they can also be polygamists based on ill-informed perspectives.
“I always say to young men that they must not think what I do is easy. It involves people and a lot of emotions. And that they should not take people into their lives and suddenly make a U-turn. Be honest from the onset so that when you bring people along, they come into your life knowing that one day, you would want to take another wife.”
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