Award-winning gospel artist, Selina Boateng, has delivered a stark insight into the marital struggles within Ghana’s Christian community.
She suggested that many couples in ministry were silently enduring painful relationships to maintain public appearances.
According to her, the perceived stability of Christian marriages stems from many couples’ fear of being wrongly labelled in society.
“If people had the liberty to openly walk away from their marriages, divorce cases would shoot up like gunfire. It would be an eyesore because the numbers would be overwhelming.”
Selina Boateng
The gospel minister suggested that fear of societal judgment and religious scrutiny are the primary factors keeping many troubled marriages intact, rather than genuine commitment or happiness.
Boateng highlighted the particular burden carried by Christian women in ministry, who face intense pressure to maintain perfect public images despite private struggles. “Once you’re married, you can’t even speak about what you’re going through. Even the people who pressured you into it won’t be there to console you,” she explained.
The ‘Alpha and Omega’ singer emphasised how marital problems significantly affect Christian leaders’ spiritual work and personal well-being.
“If you’re a Christian and your marriage falls apart, it affects everything. Your ministry, your peace, your purpose, especially if you’re a gospel musician.”
Selina Boateng
The mother of one thus appealed passionately for greater compassion within religious communities, noting that many women who speak out about their struggles face disbelief and blame rather than support.
She suggested that many prominent Christian figures privately acknowledge making wrong marital choices.
“So much is happening behind closed doors. If we allowed people to speak freely, you’d be shocked at how many men of God and gospel musicians would admit they married the wrong person.”
Selina Boateng
Selina Boateng on Regrets She Carries
The Ghanaian gospel singer offered a rare glimpse into the emotional weight and personal revelations that marriage has brought into her life, along with the deep regrets she now carries.
Selina reflected on how vastly different her expectations were from the reality she eventually encountered. With the clarity that hindsight brings, she admits she would have made very different decisions.
“Marriage has opened my eyes in so many ways. If I had the chance to go back and make changes or amend certain decisions, I honestly would—because until you’re inside the walls of marriage, you’ll never truly understand what it is.”
Selina Boateng
To illustrate just how deceiving those early expectations can be, she used a striking metaphor. “You may think something is red until you get in and realize it’s green. You think it’s white, but it’s actually yellow,” she said.
With heartfelt urgency, Selina turned her message toward those still waiting to marry. For them, she offered one powerful plea: “Don’t rush, and don’t bend to pressure. Instead, let divine wisdom guide your choice.”
“My prayer for anyone looking forward to marriage is this: May God go ahead of you and grant you a high level of wisdom, Solomon’s kind of wisdom, to choose the right partner. Because if you end up with the wrong person, it will be nothing short of hell. And I say this from experience.”
Selina Boateng
She stressed that prayerful discernment must outweigh material motives and societal noise.
“So I beg you, before you enter any marital union, go on your knees. Cry out to God for wisdom and understanding. Ask that the person coming into your life is not doing so because of your money, fame, or beauty, but because the two of you are meant to come together and fulfill God’s purpose.”
Selina Boateng
The singer revealed what she would do differently if given a second chance. “I would have listened more,” he said.
Explaining further, she spoke to the dangerous power of external pressure—from society, friends, even family.
“People will pressure you: ‘You’re aging,’ ‘You’re late,’ ‘Just marry or just have kids.’ Don’t listen to that. You alone know the fire you’re walking into, and only you will endure it.”
Selina Boateng
